Consultation Services

The Research for Betrayed Men (RBM) project centers on sex-differentiated, biological and psychological experiences of bonded, committed, conscientious men. The RBM approach centers on the intersections of, and conflicts between, biological nature, cognitive understandings, and societal normatives, from deep time perspectives. Across civilizations and cultures, throughout millennia, scholars, sages, and societies have consistently identified certain concepts and topics as complex, unknown, or unsolvable. One of these has been sexual infidelity. Put differently, human cognition cannot evade human biology. 

The RBM project incorporates the biological and psychological science of personality and individual differences. Betrayal experiences are so unique as to be only nominally applicable to any other individual's experience. This noted, there are biological and psychological realities inherent to the human condition that must be understood and processed to be coped with. This requires evaluating core beliefs, fundamental assumptions, unconscious messages, and autonomic (visceral) processes. To this end, we present information and ask questions, aligned with biological and psychological science and evidence-based practices. Working through betrayal requires understanding and processing experiences and realities. There are no formulas for, or shortcuts to, such work.

The RBM founders and contributors do not market or sell infidelity recovery or healing. We do not tell betrayed men that they can have a better relationship post discovery. We do not tell betrayed men that infidelity happens primarily in disconnected relationships. We do not ask men leading questions regarding their responsibility for their spouse’s decisions, actions, and deceptions. 

The RBM founders and contributors do not market or sell their expertise. Rather, we maintain a minimal footprint. Simply put, the project is not about us. The RBM co-founders discuss the project’s approach and methodology in this video. Please see the consultations page.